Category Archives: friends

precious life

With a great deal of sensitivity and grace I will try to explain my friend’s position.

She is a wonderful mum. In fact, between her and my best mate, they have taught me the most about being a mum.  She is honest, generous and kind.  And she is an honest, generous and kind mum.  She has three beautiful boys who are energetic and cheeky.  She is healthy and has great support from her friends and family.  Recently she chose to attempt a procedure which is designed to ensure a gender specific pregnancy.  I was surprised.  I was concerned, for her health and her family.  And whether I agree or not is totally irrelevant.

This procedure is done off shore.  She returned recently – pregnant.  And I was happy for her.

Today, she lost that baby.  I am heartbroken for her.  Whether I (you) agree or not, it is heartbreaking.  The drive in her for this baby was so great she sacrificed finances, reputation, time, energy, and potentially her health.  And whether I (you) agree or not, a baby was conceived.

There was so much emphasis (not by her) on the peripheral’s of this pregnancy. But to her and to those closest to her it was all about the end result – a precious little life.  Right now I couldn’t care less about the how or the why.  And neither should anyone else.

All my love goes out to her and her family.  There is not much else I can say.

common ground

Sometimes you meet people and it is difficult to find the common ground between the two of you.  Sometimes there is but a small crossover of ideology or interests or passions.  It is not a negative reflection of you or them, it’s just difficult to find common ground between you.

And then sometimes the common ground is vast and beautiful and beyond reason. 

I had breakfast this morning with three spectacular girls who I adore and it was a special treat for the four of us to get together. 

I savoured every second of it.     

These girls are honest and kind, beautiful and gracious.  Being near them breathes life into me and inspires me towards what I know is true and right.  

I have known these girls for over ten years and there is always the risk of growing apart.  But I think that I can safely say, this side of 10 years, that we will grow old together.  And the loveliest of things is that the common ground gets greater and firmer with every year.  For some reason, despite different interests, abilities and stages in life, it feels like our friendship gets better and deeper.     

I find it quite extraordinary that my life is full of these lovely people who speak truth and grace in necessary and equal quantities. 

I am sure there will be many more breakfasts to come and I am so unbelievably grateful for that. x